Are You Listening To Your Inner Critic?

Note: I posted this on 12 12 Gallery's site as well as Active Grey Matter's blog but I think it bears re-posting for everyone who visits here… 😉

Inner-Critic Source: WSJ Health Journal

Silencing a Voice That Says You’re a Fraud

By Melinda Beck

A physician starts playing a harsh mental tape in her head every time a new patient calls: What if I make the wrong diagnosis? I’m a terrible doctor. How did I get into medical school?

An executive loses his job and despite 25 productive years, he tells himself: I’m a loser. I can’t provide for my family, and I’ll never be able to again.

An eminent scholar is offered a top post in the Obama administration and his first reaction is: They must have made a mistake.

If these real-life examples sound familiar, you may have a caustic
commentary running in your head, too. Psychologists say many of their
patients are plagued by a harsh Inner Critic — including some extremely
successful people who think it’s the secret to their success.

An Inner Critic can indeed roust you out of bed in the morning, get
you on the treadmill (literally and figuratively) and spur you to
finish that book or symphony or invention.

But the desire to achieve can get hijacked by harsh judgment and
unrelenting fear. “There’s a healthy version and an unhealthy version,”
says Daniel F. Seidman, a clinical psychologist at Columbia University
Medical Center in New York. In some cases, he says, “people may achieve
a lot, but they are totally miserable about it.”

Unrelenting self-criticism often goes hand in hand with depression
and anxiety, and it may even predict depression. In a study of 107
patients in the latest issue of Comprehensive Psychiatry, David M.
Dunkley at Jewish General Hospital in Montreal and colleagues found
that those who were most self-critical were the most likely to be
depressed and have difficulties in relationships four years later, even
if they weren’t depressed to begin with.

Self-criticism is also a factor in eating disorders, self-mutilation
and body dysmorphic disorder — that is, preoccupation with one’s
perceived physical flaws. “We have expanded what we expect of material
success and physical appearance so that it’s completely unrealistic,”
says Robert L. Leahy, a psychiatrist and director of the American
Institute for Cognitive Therapy in New York.

Many people’s Inner Critic makes an appearance early in life and is
such a constant companion that it’s part of their personality.
Psychologists say that children, particularly those with a genetic
predisposition to depression, may internalize and exaggerate the
expectations of parents or peers or society. One theory is that
self-criticism is anger turned inward, when sufferers are filled with
hostility but too afraid and insecure to let it out. Other theories
hold that people who scold themselves are acting out guilt or shame or
subconsciously shielding themselves against criticism from others: You can’t tell me anything I don’t already tell myself, in even harsher terms.

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Drawing by Silje Alberthe Kamille Friis